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Want to work against stressors during a busy work day? Many recent studies on job satisfaction reveal that workers spending more and more time in office environments, often under artificial light in offices in offices or cubicles with no outside view, report reduced job satisfaction and increased stress levels. Nature can make a difference even if you work in a cubicle.

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Get some sunshine: Take a walk outside during your lunch hour. Sunlight stimulates serotonin production, which enhances your mood and ability to sleep. Try setting your clock an hour early and enjoy the first light of day and the vibrance of dew coated leaves and blossoms. Catch more sun daily, and you'll enhance melatonin levels and find you fall asleep and stay asleep at night. You'll get even more benefits since the vitamin D we get from sun exposure [as we use sunscreen] enhances immune function, reduces hypertension and possibly plays a role in preventing cancer.

Select new plants for your office: If you begin by choosing plants that appeal to you, you'll want to care for them. Believe it or not, you can make as much connection to a plant as you would to an animal. Plants can work similarly to pets as they thrive under nurture, lower stress and "aloneness," and even help extend longevity, Kim Mickenberg, intern at Psychology Today finds.

While some folks prefer violets, which love light, others might choose a peace plant which produces showy blossoms and at the same time thrives where there isn't sunlight. And, it you want to go for class, raising orchids in your office might prove more stimulating.

Take Time to Look Outside Though many workers spend days, months, and years working in cubicles without a view, taking time to look outside's a benefit. Pausing to view nature, helps folks to refocus attention and brings more calm. "When you can't get outside, bring nature in to you," advises Kim Mickenberg, in the August (2008) issue of Psychology Today. Why not plan mini-breaks to drink in the green or reds, and yellows or even white, depending on the season? It enhances your day and your mood. Even better, plan to go outside on your lunch break!

Green Plants Improve Workers' Quality of Life When surveyed about their overall quality of life, Dr.Tina Marie (Waliczek) Cade, Associate Professor of Horticulture at Texas State University, reveals that employees with interior plants in their offices tended to consider themselves happier or more content when compared to employees without plants in their offices. Additionally, the group of employees that did not have either live plants or windows was the only group that stated they were "dissatisfied" with their quality of life.

What about nature after work? Some people make their homes a real natural haven following work. For instance, Dr. Ellen Weber, busy CEO of the MITA International Brain Based Center, recently built a Koi Pond. She discovered...

"To create a koi pond is to discover new life in art and science - embedded in the gentle movement of fish, muted colors of nature's best, and the wonder of waking up to water rushing over rocks at dawn. A koi pond mixes magic moments found in nature, in fish and in humans. How could I have waited so long to build one?"

How does nature nuture you at work or after work?

Retrospective on South Carolina's Cypress Gardens

We love Cypress Gardens in Moncks Corner, South Carolina. No! It is NOT like the one in Florida with the fancy water shows and thrilling rides, but it suits our family perfectly! Cypress Gardens is much smaller, not showy, less tourista! You can find it on the outskirts of the sleepy little town of Moncks Corner, which also hosts a fantastic seafood restaurant called Gilligan's, an old Charleston favorite which preceded the television show by decades, and a Trappist monastery. In my childhood, we spent a few weeks every summer at Short Stay, a Navy recreation camp on a man-made lake near Moncks Corner.

We first visited this lovely blackwater swamp in June 2004 on our first trip to Manning to see my parents and their new home. That was when the old "church" made out of wood and stucco still stood, a relic of the movie set of The Patriot. (Several movies were filmed here: The Swamp Thing and The Notebook). Anyway, the first time my parents went here my mother exclaimed, "Oh, look at that old Spanish mission!" She started snapping photographs left and right until they past it and realized it was only a facade! Unfortunately, the "church" is no mas for a severe thunderstorm blew it down. All that is left are some pylons sticking out of the water. However, you can find other props from the set like the eight portable cypress tree trunks and the under-swamp bridge for the scenes of horses walking through the swamp (which is next to impossible to do in real life). The other interesting trick was that the film crew lowered the level of water (easily done through a dam that prevents the swamp from drying out every summer) to make the Spanish Mission island bigger.

I was going to launch into a history lesson, but you can find a much better version in this fifteen-minute online video.

David was almost twelve and Pamela fifteen on our first visit. I remember him sighing and reflecting, "I could live here," during the boat ride on the swamp. The water is clean even though it looks black as ink. When the needles fall off the cypress trees, they sink to the bottom and slowly release tannins (used to tan leather, which we studied in The Brendan Voyage and Amos Fortune, Free Man). The bottom of the shallow swamp is black, and that color gets reflected off the surface. Look carefully in the second photo and you will see an alligator gliding in front of us!



The first friend we made was Woody, the wood duck. He lived in the Butterfly House. We were saddened by the news of his death in 2007, marked by this memorial stone. On our most recent visit with my sister-in-law, we were delighted to meet a juvenile wood duck, whose lost his mother when a car ran over her! It will be exciting to see him mature on our next visits!

The Original Woody


Woody the Younger


In July 2007, we took our nephew Antonio (Patty's son) to Cypress Gardens and he loved it, too! Two weeks ago, we met Tammy's high school friend Lisa (and her husband Johnny and baby girl Leilani). Patty and Javier had their chance on Tuesday, but a light shower during the swamp tour prevented me from filming or taking pictures. Below is a video of photographs and film clips of our swamp tours.


We were fortunate to have visited before the crocodiles made their curtain call! The county can no longer afford to keep the crocs in style, so they had to find a new home for them. Johnny enjoyed hanging out with the crocs, which reminded him of his school mascot--not some goon in a suit--a real live crocodile that they kept well-fed. When we brought Patty and Javier, the closed doors to the reptile exhibit saddened me, but I did not shed any crocodile tears . . .

Here are some photobuckets organized by theme!
Butterflies Everywhere!

Flora and Fauna

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Topiary Triumph

Monday was a long day for Pamela: after we toured the peach orchard, country store, and packing plant, we stopped at a fascinating topiary garden and Barnes and Nobles before heading home.



In the rural town of Bishopville, home of the Cotton Museum and stop along the cotton trail, is Pearl Fryar's topiary garden, featured in Smithstonian Magazine. A documentary called A Man Named Pearl, due out in December 2008, explores the man behind the garden. It all started in 1984 when he cut up a few bushes around the front door of the first home he ever owned. Then, he formed his street address with plant cuttings. The next thing you know he was filling his yard with trees and bushes cut into abstract shapes. He filled his art with words like love, peace, and goodwill and created metal art with messages like hate hurts, love unity, and faith.

Pearl set his mind on winning Yard of the Month by the local garden club, and he did three times! Winthrop University awarded him with a 2006 Medal in the Arts for his work as a self-taught topiary artist and his impact on his community. Many media outlets and travel websites have featured his topiary garden, so we expect some sort of commercialization at the site. We drove up to the garden surrounding his brick home in a residential neighborhood. There are no signs nor gift shops filled with tacky stuff for sale. The hours are dawn to dusk and, if you are lucky, you will catch him at work and get the chance to chat with Pearl. We were not that lucky! I just love stories like his and enjoy meeting inspiring people.





The photograph below cracked me up! When he was a boy, David loved collecting sticks. Whenever we moved, he would sort through his stick collection and keep the best ones. He even brought a few sticks with him on our last move to South Carolina. I can see that old habits die hard!



Pamela was tuckered out and, even though she wanted to go, she hung in there without any major meltdowns. About two minutes into the video, she worked her way to a little field behind the garden, flung out her hands, and said, "Here I am!" The focus of my video was interacting with Pamela.

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Pamela's Babysitting Job

Relationship Development Intervention (RDI) cleared up a mystery I have been thinking through for a long time. Even though Pamela is physically 19 years old, academically doing 5th to 6th grade level work, and speaking at an early elementary level, she still enjoys watching PBS children's programming and Nickelodeon. She plays with stuffed animals, Barbies, and baby dolls. According to our consultant, Pamela's relationship skills are similar to that of a toddler, which gives me permission to stop worrying about her immature play skills. For example, Pamela's tia (aunt) from El Salvador is visiting us and wanted to buy her some books. Pamela chose Eric Carle's The Very Hungry Caterpillar and The Very Busy Spider, which is way below her actual reading level. Since her choice makes sense emotionally, I saw nothing wrong.

Yesterday, her tia wanted to buy a toy for Pamela and I used the opportunity to film how well Pamela does with orienting to me. Shopping at the very noisy Wal-Mart would test her to the maximum between sensory overload and the excitement of picking out a new toy. Pamela and I interacted very nicely, all things considered.


Pamela has two baby dolls now and she thinks our family-size has increased from four to six! She calls herself a "big girl"--too young to be the mother of the babies. So, when she decided to bring the babies on a trip to a peach orchard and topiary garden (to be blogged another day), she thought of her role as the babysitter. Because the weather is hot, she stripped them down to diapers so they would be more comfortable. The oldest one is Baby Alive, but she named the little brother Baby David (after her brother). Even though the new baby came wrapped in a pink robe, she thinks he looks like David when he was a baby.

Patty (Pamela's tia, or aunt) visited us last year for three weeks about a month after we began incorporating RDI into our life. She has noticed many wonderful changes in Pamela. Her face is more expressive, and she tunes into conversations much more. Today, in the car, Patty was trying to teach David to roll his r's and they were practicing saying that troublesome letter. They went through a series of words like carro, perro, and burrito. Patty was trying get David to emphasize the r in burrito and, suddenly and very dramatically, Pamela yelled out, "BURRITO!" She had us all in stitches!

Pamela spends less time pacing, hidden in her room watching television, playing on the computer, or watching television. She transitions to one self-selected entertainment choice to another rather than being stuck in one mode of play for long periods of time. She seeks being around us more than she did in Patty's last visit. Pamela is much more able to have back and forth conversations with Patty. She seems much calmer and more relaxed, less frustrated, and more able to handle change. She talks more spontaneously and less rigidly than last year, too.

A friend of Patty's joined her on this trip to the States, and Pamela has never met him. He said today that they had a little conversation at the book store and he noticed how she imitated his volume. If he spoke loudly, she did; when he whispered, she whispered. Patty noticed how Pamela will whisper to herself quite often, and I had not really paid attention to it. I may need to go reread my posts on the development of private speech.

Here are Pamela and her tia Patty giving kisses to the baby and a wonderful exchange they had in a very loud peach packing plant. I will share footage later when I have time to edit.

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Baby Steps in Guiding with Communication

Steve is taking his first steps in guiding Pamela through his altered communication style--the same steps I took last year! Yesterday, we talked to our consultant by phone about how to help Steve get started. He has a tougher job in some ways because Pamela adjusted to my guidance when we first started homeschooling. With Steve, she is used to wielding the awesome, incredible superpowers of Daddy's little girl. One pout . . . and he caves! LOL! For example, last weekend, when we tried to capture their interactions on film, Pamela refused to do anything dynamic with him (I think because she senses this is the beginning of the end of the Queen Bee's reign). They ended up putting together a puzzle of the United States--a very static activity.

We brainstormed an outdoor activity they can do together that is part of Steve's weekend routine. We settled on Pamela donning a swimsuit and helping him wash the cars (I think it is a winner because Pamela asked what we were doing tomorrow; when I told her about the swimsuit and car wash plan, her entire face lit up with excitement). The neat thing about washing cars is that it is ripe for interaction patterns: simultaneously wash up and down or side to side, alternate I spray and you spray, etc. To focus on avoiding the dreaded QPC (questions, prompts, commands) monster, he thought of the perfect phrase for himself, "Give her time!"

Learning to change your communication style is a mental game! You have to think about what you plan to do in advance! Our strategy is:

• Watch an E-Learning module (only available through consultants) on guided participation.
• Figure out a competent role for Steve and a competent role for Pamela that is collaborative, not one person bossing around the other the entire time.
• Watch some interaction pattern clips so he can see three types (assembly line, reciprocating, and simultaneous) and their variations.
• Figure out the interaction patterns he can fall back on when unsure how to proceed.
• Be mindful of having pregnant pauses and hopeful expectant looks while waiting for her to respond.

Pamela and I are working on separate objectives. We have been breaking down gestures, starting off with receptive gestures to tell us that she is listening and understands. She has mastered pointing out what she sees to establish joint attention with me and nodding or shaking her head when I talk. We have spent the past ten days transferring the responsibility of orientation to her. Whenever Pamela talked to me, I went out of my way to turn my body to her so that we could have face-to-face communication. She now realizes that she needs to orient herself as well. Rather than have a specially framed activity to teach this, I waited for natural opportunities in real life:

• If Pamela started talking from another room, I ignored her until she walked into the room and established face-to-face with me.
• If I was in the middle of something (reading a book while sitting on the couch), I did not look up unless she tapped me on the shoulder.
• If I was in front of the computer or sink, I scaffolded her by taking a few steps back to give her maneuvering room. At first, I gently guided her with my arm until she had face-to-face contact.
• Occasionally, I turn away from her before the conversation and wait for her to orient in my direction.

She now understands her responsibility and, once I capture this in action on film and am satisfied with what I see, I plan to be more natural about it. In most interactions, both people work together to orient themselves and, to spotlight her responsibility, I have been unusually unresponsive!

Since Steve's schedule is so busy (major business meeting next week), I asked David to film Pamela and I shopping, which has scope for lots of face-to-face connection, disconnection, and reconnection. Being the easily embarrassed teen, he was less than thrilled. I thought providing him a better understanding might encourage him to step up. Our consultant told me yesterday that nobody in the RDI world has broken down receptive listening like we have. We are pioneering this aspect of this objective for others down the road. Because Pamela is so comfortable with gestures, we find it worthwhile to linger here for the moment to give her a wider range of communication. I told David that what he films will end up in the RDI computer system and these films will help other parents doing this same objective with their children down the road. To make an impression on David, I told him parents all over the world, in places like Singapore and Australia, are using RDI.

The shared understanding tactic worked! David's eyes widened when he realized the scope of what we do on a daily basis around here. He told me, "Okay, Mom! You've inspired me!"

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Last Tuesday, Pamela and I went back to the dress shop to place the order for a dress and two yards of material to make a little jacket to go with the dress. Pamela did very well in allowing the shop owner to measure her. The dress should arrive at the end of August--plenty of time for alterations. Once we have the dress fitted, we will head to the mall and purchase a comfortable, yet supportive bra that works with the straps. The next thing on my to-do list is to find a pair of flat shoes to go with the dress!

I do not believe in coincidences because I believe in God. So, I thanked God that this shop, in a town with population 4,025 (and a high rate of beauty pageant contestants), carried the exact dress (the black leftmost dress) in the exact color (grape) and the exact material (taffeta) we plan to order--only one size too small! Pamela tried on the dress, but I was not able to zip it completely. At least, the dress gave us an idea on how it will look on Pamela.

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Shout'em comes with Android demo

Croatia is a hotbed of mobile startups right now. One to argue with me ? ;D

Proud to write about people that stand behind Shout 'Em.
It is an app made by croatian startup Fiveminutes that was showcased at the recent Mobile 2.0 event in Barcelona.

Shout'Em is platform on which you can easily start mobile social networking service ( hosted solution ) .
Now, how not to be proud when it is the first croatian start up coming in the mobile space in a big way.
To me , it sounds uber-cool mobile app ( still, I would like to see it on a handset and not emulator-only ). I have exchanged mails with them and soon to have meeting with them :)

The best of all, they already build Android demo ( see in emulator ).

Viktor Marohnic, one of the founders, wrote a post about his experience with Mobile 2.0 event:

We were one of 10 startups selected from 70 to give five minutes pitch. On top of that we were selected with two other startups to present our business plans in more details in front of the same group of investors. So that make it 3 from 70. Not bad :)

They could be creating mobile tool which will make life easier for all those people starting small social networks all around the world ( to make a bit comparison ; in a desktop and full browser world we have forums, newsgroups, twitts etc. ).
Interesting is here it could become one of the first apps to prove viability of Google's Android platform.

Hope they make through all obstacles and become global app.

Twitter back

Persona non grata

Have U heard about Twitter personalities ?
Be a ''girl'' and go read it :-D
Andrew Grill knows everything about your inner twitter hehe

Yahoo to provide UK's 3 with mobile ads

Pissing Google territory

Yahoo has struck a deal with mobile operator 3 UK to sell display ads and sponsored links on the company's Planet 3 portal site.
Yahoo becomes the shark for mobile internet advertising, indeed.

Where's Google ? Loosing its steam ? It appears that Yahoo OneSearch gets edge with operators.
I am not sure about consumer market ( if there is one ).

WAP browsing is still not for broad market, only iPhone is there to drive usage.
Operators mobile portals are lousy and killing subcribers with data rates.
Portals suck.

But for sure, ''mobile checkout'' is still in operators hands and no promising solution is on the market yet.

Well, nobody has dominant position and it is hard to measure those things at the moment.

Flash goes iPhone ?

For real or a rumor ?

The first time in the mobile history somebody ported Flash Lite Project ( mobile version of Adobe's Flash ) to the iPhone/iPod touch, claims Thomas Joos ( yesterday< ) who has collaborated with italian programmer Emanuele Cipolloni.

We managed to create a flash lite application, providing cool graphics and animation ( that’s why we definately do NOT use JavaME ) and giving you all the information you need without any other crap! How great is that. No more silly ringtones or wallpapers to ”catch your attention”. This time you just get what you need: Rock Werchter Information in a rich visual environment.

That's what he says. We know that iPhone, at the moment, doesn't support Flash, but Adobe has plans.
I already wrote about my excitiment with Flash lite before ( when there was still no iPhone released ) and touted croatian development studio Gideon Mobile who got an award for interactive mobile guide of London's subway system ( Nokia s60 3rd edition )

MTV portal does flash lite content.

Here's the latest about Flash lite statistics.