Sunday, September 30, 2007

Tease Your Readers' Senses!

How do you entice folks to read your blogs? That's the million dollar question and recently someone asked me that. Hmmm.... I put the noodle to work on this...

Challenge your readers. The human brain's intrigued by challenges and puzzles. It thrives on what is out of the ordinary. So with this in mind here's some appeteasers...

Tip Ideas Upside Down Seth Godin's a maestro at this... Fire the Customer... Small is the New Big...

Poll or Survey Recently Valeria Maltoni polled readers about trends coexisting in our lives. She wanted to know which ones interested me and why. By including a poll you value reader's input and they feel like they count. You honor readers' input even more if you analyze and show results in a later post...

Or, you might enjoy seeing how addicted to blogging you are. Try Jeremiah Owyang's challenge to see if you are more of an addict than he...

Visualize Ideas for Readers An image is worth 1,000 words... Today's readers enjoy a quick snack and they're gone. The average reader stays but 17 seconds... Try finding just the right image to capture the essence of your post.

OK, what would put the icing on the cake? The challenge is here...

First here's Chef Mike Sansone's feast for your dining pleasure SCAMPER tactics...
SCAMPER can a creative thinking technique to jump-start your blog posting:

Substitute - Remember the Z-List? Sandy substituted text for images and extended its viral life.

Combine - Consider combining text and audio (sound bytes) in a post.
Adapt - I've written before about emulating an idea to make it your own. Recently, I was inspired by Adam's brilliant post to toy with this scene about RSS feeds.

Modify - Todd Andrlik modified the idea of the Z-List, created the Power 150 and recently partnered it with AdAge

Put to Other Use - One more example from the Z-List: Gavin gave it permanent life on the Z-List Wiki

Eliminate - Television. You'll find more time to blog.

Rearrange - Turning statements into questions could be one way, right?
Michael Michalko, author of Thinkertoys, stopped by to share two more SCAMPER tactics to play with...
Magnify Unique close focus

Reverse Start at the end and rewind... see where this takes you!
OK, your turn... Scratch your noodle... and add your tactics to Tease Your Readers' Senses...

"New Way of Approaching Autism"--DUH!

I just read an article called Scientists Make Gut-Brain Connection to Autism. In a nutshell, scientists at the University of Western Ontario have found that some bacteria produce propionic acid in the gut, a compound which just happens to be found in bread and dairy products. Rats begin to exhibit autistic-like behavior when given doses of propionic acid and develop inflammation of the brain. They go on to say that addressing health ought to be the first step in addressing autism and that behavior therapy alone is insufficient.

WELL, IT'S ABOUT TIME!!!!!

I really have to giggle at reading the subtitle "New Way of Approaching Autism" . . .

NEW??????

Let me think. I started tinkering with Pamela's diet in April 1994--well over thirteen years ago when I uncovered a connection between apples and insomnia. The reason why I became interested in diet was because of the Autism Research Institute. Dear old Dr. Bernard Rimland, may he rest in peace, had been beating that drum from the very beginning of his newsletter, Autism Research Review International. His editorial on autism and food allergies written in 1989 is what got me started on Pamela's first elimination diet in 1994. His cutting-edge recommendations for a gluten-free casein-free diet began as early as 1992. His informative newsletter was what jump-started parents like me in the days before the Internet. Dr. William Shaw begin reporting on a variety of compounds produced by bacteria and yeast in the gut as early as the 1994 ASA Conference in Las Vegas (I was there!), and you can read his thoughts on propionic acid presented at the 1996 conference.

AGAIN, I SAY NEW??????

I just hope this validates Dr. Andrew Wakefield who has been persecuted by the medical junta in England because he dared to go beyond the gut-brain connection to vaccinations. All I can say is Britain's loss is our gain!

P. S. I have spent the month updating my web pages. I just finished updating my autism-homeschooling page and added a section with inspirational books both about autism and off the beaten path. Pamela's page and my Charlotte Mason page are current, too!

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Borrowed Perspective and Puzzles

Pamela had a great week, that is, if you ignore a nasty cold and several interruptions from three different service technicians for our home. She finished the tenth and final primer of the Reading Milestones Red Book series and recited three poems for me: At the Zoo, There Was a Little Girl, and At the Seaside. She finished her first 300-piece puzzle, plus she found a cure for the common cold.

I am finally starting to understand what RDI parents mean about borrowed perspective. I do not know why, but I once thought it was so important that Pamela do things without any help or hints to prove to me she could do it all by herself and work on that important concept of independence. I kept a flat face, betraying no hints to avoid tossing out hints. I think residual habits from The Me Book days clouded my judgment. When it came to tasks that were too hard and not worth the effort (jigsaw puzzles), I let them go by the wayside because she was so inept.

When I was Pamela's age, I enjoyed puzzles and could always count on my oma in Germany sending me a big, beautiful one every Christmas. Until now, I have not done much to share that joy with Pamela. I am seeing for the first time that Pamela can borrow from my perspective and improve her puzzle building skills. Being able to build a puzzle is not as important as working together as a team, enjoying each other's company, and sharing little triumphs.

During the week, we were puzzle partners with different roles. I retrieved puzzle pieces from the box and gazed at the spot on the box matching the piece. She referenced me until she found the right spot and then placed the piece on the mat. Before RDI, she blindly put puzzle pieces together without any thought. Now, between referencing my face for information and hearing declarative comments, she understands about the edges, matching by shape or by colors, and using the box. And occasionally, she finds the spot first or knows exactly where to place it on the mat!

We ended the week with a sweet moment while baking cookies. Pamela helped me clean the kitchen, and it was time to lick the bowl. She does not have a problem with sharing and does not mind if I snatch a lick or two. I always pretend like I am going to keep it for myself to see how she reacts. Normally, she gives me a pretty bland smile when I take my licks. Last night, she very dramatically scrunched up her face and stuck out her tongue as if to tell me I was hogging the bowl. Then, when I nonverbally gestured to give her the bowl, she flashed me a great, big smile, even lifting her shoulders up to make it more dramatic. Before RDI, only strong emotions brought about strong facial expressions. I find it so delightful to see such animated features blossom with even emotions.

Fly High! Tap More Intelligences

Want to be at the top of your game? No matter what profession you chose, you can fly high by tapping into underused talents. Here're current streams that'll inspire you to soar...

Verbal Linguistic Amy Jussel provides excellent strategies on how to engage your teens by asking good questions about the daily news ... a two-footed questioning strategy used with great purpose. Why not see how Amy does this to engage teens in deep conversation!

Logical Mathematical Intelligence GL Hoffman reminds us that most of us have what it takes to be impressive leaders... but it's just a matter of fine tuning, tweaking that extra 5% so that we get to the big(ger) leagues. Hmmm... What do you think?

Interpersonal Intelligence If anyone knows the secrets to engage others, it's Liz Strauss. Liz shares some secrets about how to win a fiercely, loyal community of readers, but my sense is that her secrets work well in many settings. Here's the nuggets:

  1. Be interesting. Be entertaining. Be silly. Be informative. Be controversial. Be anything but preachy or boring.

  2. Be simple. Put away the big vocabulary words and the long sentences. Extra words get between your message and me.

  3. Be positive. Know what you’re saying and show me how to get to a positive end. No one wants a problems without a solution.

  4. Be trustworthy and respectful. Be who you say you are. Deliver on your tagline. Answer comments.

  5. Be consistent. Let folks know what to expect of and from you . . . and in like manner, what you expect of and from them. Every relationship is based on an exchange.

  6. Be readable. Configure your content to serve readers.

  7. Be generous and satisfying. Care passionately about what you write. Care even more about the folks who come to read it.
Liz, this is truly an amazing cache of tools to make significant connections. Check Liz's post for all the extras!

Intrapersonal Intelligence Richard Calderwood advises that we maintain attitude and altitude or we'll surely crash. Only one in five entrepreneurs in Britain is a ‘high flyer.’ Do you see your business personality here?

High flyers, approximately 17% of those surveyed, were identified as those business owners who demonstrated strong and consistent growth for their businesses over the past three years. They tended to be successful business leaders with an optimistic outlook on the UK economy and were investing in the future.

Steady Growers, at 35%, were identified as owners achieving moderate growth for their businesses over the past three years with a fairly optimistic outlook on the economy etc.

Survivors, also at 35%, experienced little or no growth in the last three years and expected their performance to remain much the same for the following year or so.

Strugglers at 13%, fortunately representing the smallest group. These are business owners that have experienced no growth over the past three years and tended to be pessimistic about the prospects for both their businesses and the economy.

If you are being held ‘hostage’ to your business, break the shackles – and get your life back. Either find some way to rekindle that passion or get out and start another business with a fresh passion. Make a decision now - desert the ‘strugglers’ and join the ranks of the ‘high flyers’.
Spatial Intelligence Mel Kaye uses photos of dogs to show attitude and speak to the mystery of why some dogs bite. Pictures work powerfully to get ideas across to others, Mel, and you do it well.

Bodily-kinesthetic Intelligence Want some fun and pizazz to exercise? When I visited Martha Stewart's post, Mario Lopes on fitness moves that are easy and fun, I found just the ticket... take a break and exercise to Salsa. Mario Lopez has a great short video on People Magazine to get you started. Marisa Trevino shares a second dance exercise video. And, did you know that dancing is just as good, if not better, than walking as a way to burn calories?

Okay, choose some salsa tunes for your iPod, put on the wrist weights and let's have some fun during a work lunch break. That'll prevent afternoon slump and fire up creativity for the rest of the day!

Naturalistic Intelligence Is the environment important to you? You might consider planning ahead to October 15th when Bloggers Unite for the environment. Joanna Young asks:

What would happen if every blog published posts discussing the same issue, on the same day?

Wow. That’s a big question. What would happen? Aren’t you curious? What kind of ideas, stories, words, anecdotes, research material, jokes, songs, photos, videos might get published, swapped, exchanged? What kind of possibilities might start to emerge from the conversations that followed? What could we learn – together – all of us – by talking about the same issue, all of us, on one day?
Will you consider making a difference by answering the challenge laid down by the organisers of Blog Action Day In the meantime, why not go out and enjoy this lovely fall day for inspiration?

Musical Intelligence Terry Starbucker's glass is always overflowing with the most amazing insights... His ears picked up as he heard his wife playing some Czerny exercises. Fact is Terry was mesmerized since he hadn't heard his wife play in years so he picked up the exercise book to learn more about Czerney's methods...And there's great wisdom here for me as well...Here were the three key lessons:
Teachers should never instruct sans raison et sans plaisir; translated, "without reason and without pleasure". We simply can't be arbitrary and unfocused with our teaching, and it darned well better be fun, or else what you are trying to teach will not be learned.

"An ounce of demonstration is worth a pound of explanation". You have to talk the talk, AND walk the walk, by rolling up the sleeves and showing how it's done. I'm stealing this one (in fact, I've already used it with my team twice!).

"Application of common sense". Everyone must be taught at a pace and intensity that works best for them, and a good teacher should be able to calibrate this correctly, by simply using good ol' common sense.
What happens if these principles are consistently applied? The "accomplishment....will mean to the student a fluent and reliable technic, brilliancy, versatility and endurance, and.....prove an "open sesame" to all the works from Bach to Beethoven"



In Terry's words, "taken in the broader context, better teaching leads to lasting learning that can open the gates towards taking on even bigger challenges, and succeeding."

As I looked over the many ways bloggers teach me to sharpen my own gifts and talents, I see that I have much to learn and I'll be flying high as I near the finish line... You?

Friday, September 28, 2007

Reinventing the Wheel in Reading

Since starting the new schedule with Pamela, we have been working hard on what I have called "guided reading." To my dismay (or perhaps, delight), several people have already written several books by that name! I try to avoid buying books for the sake of buying them, especially brand-spanking new ones. Whenever I hear of a must-buy read, I always search eBay and Best Web Buys for a used copy for about six months before splurging on a new one. Last night, I Snoopy danced because I won an ebay auction for the RDI DVD for only $41 including shipping. I hope it is not scratched, and I do not know if it is the latest and greatest in the RDI world, but I do not plan to burst my bubble until the very last moment possible. Because I am a ditz who loves coffee and manages to make every book I touch look trashed, I try to avoid borrowing copies of anything from a friend.

My plan today is to share what Pamela and I are doing in my version of guided reading (or should I say connected reading or modeled reading). I hope that some helpful soul who has already read either Guided Reading (for K-3) or Guided Reading (Grades 3-6) can tell me if it is something worth putting on my must-buy list.

Here is what we do when reading a book:

Preview the Chapter - We preview the chapter in many ways:

* We look at the title and pictures to guess what might be happening. I try to use declarative language like "I wonder what this means" or "I wonder what happened to so-and-so."

* We also recall what we read previously to get our minds into the book. I try to use declarative language like "Yesterday's chapter was exciting because . . ." I also try to be less competent (as recommended by my friend Mary) and start recalling bits of the chapter, hoping Pamela will rescue me!

* If the book has a map and location is important, we study the map to refresh our minds. We sometimes consult our well-worn atlas that I bought for two bucks at a used book sale. For a new book, we might even talk about other characters (real or imaginary) who lived in that place and time.

* If I know in advance we are covering completely unfamiliar territory, I try to think of a mental bridge. For example, in The Winged Watchman, I thought connecting the landwatcher Leendert (a traitor who spied on his neighbors for the Nazis) to Rolf in The Sound of Music, a movie which Pamela loves. When we started The Brendan Voyage, I compared the book to Kon-Tiki because it is a story about five men on a very small boat crossing an ocean to make a point.

Reading Style - If Pamela reads a chapter by herself, she will probably recall about two sentences. Here is what we do to keep her mind focused:

* I select a short passage, half a page or a paragraph or two, depending upon the material.

* We skim the beginning, middle, and end of the passage for a keyword in each that might be important. She tells me what they are and I might have her choose a different word if the one chosen will derail her understanding by saying, "I think there is a better word."

* Usually, she reads silently, using her finger to help her eyes track the words.

* If the passage is primarily dialogue, we assign parts and read it aloud together with as much dramatic flair as we can muster.

* Sometimes, her mind is not on the material. How do I know? She tries to have a conversation with me while reading! I redirect her by saying, "It sure is hard to talk and read at the same time. How about starting over?"

Oral Narration - Oral narration is the backbone of a Charlotte Mason philosophy of education and I find it a great way to avoid getting too imperative. Instead of asking Pamela a ton of questions, I let her tell me what she knows:

* I let Pamela have one last glance of the passage and ask her if she is ready. I give her the sympathetic, expectant look Charlotte Mason recommended. During the narration, I do things to keep her alert to my facial expression.

* I close the book, and Pamela retells me what she remembers. I try not to interrupt her, except to correct the pronunciation of a word if it is word she will use often like the name of a character.

* If she forgot something, I remind her in a declarative way by saying, "I seem to remember something about a dog." If a few hints is not enough, I do not worry about it because often important information is repeated or can be inferred.

* If she starts to make a howler (something senseless that is often very funny), I change my facial expression to alert her to the fact that the train is heading off the tracks.

* If her narration is threadbare, then I might share what I remember. Or, I open the book and ask her questions ala the association method. Rather than focusing on the fact that she omitted information, I focus on it as an opportunity to practice syntax.

* If her narration is meaty, we move onto the next passage!

Modeling Thinking while Reading - Charlotte Mason emphasized that, while reading, the mind ought to put questions to itself and answer them while reading. Since we break up a chapter into small chunks, it offers the chance to reflect before plunging into the next passage. I try to work in questions and connections as we go:

* I ask predicting questions or opinion questions. I read somewhere that a question that has no right or wrong answer is more declarative. I will ask things like "What do you think will happen to so-and-so?" or "Who do you think is good/wicked/whatever?" or "Do think whatever will happen?"

* We try to make connections to other books or ourselves. I will say, "That reminds me of" a place or book and see if she fills in the connection. If not, we move on and linger on that thought at the end of the chapter.

Oral Recap of the Chapter - At the end of the reading for the day, we do a recap:

* We focus on the beginning, middle, and end of the entire passage.

* Pamela narrates the entire chapter. She usually narrations about ten or more sentences.

* I tape or film some of the narrations for the next step.

* We talk about connections and predictions for the next chapter.

Sentence Strips - Every day, Pamela does written narrations for two books. Because she is just learning to compose paragraphs, I added sentence strips (an idea suggested by Cheri Hedden). I type up her oral narrations into strips (mistakes and all), and Pamela works with them:

* Pamela organizes her strips, correcting any errors.

* She replaces repetitive nouns with pronouns for variety.

* She thinks of a better word for any word with strikethroughs (a hint to think of a more specific word).

* She fills in the blank. I usually leave blanks for adjectives or a prepositional phrase. If she says "So and so is happy", I tack "because ______________" at the end to prepare her for why questions down the road.

* I check her work and point out anything she overlooked.

* Then, I read her strips aloud very slowly as if I were reading the most wonderful piece of writing I ever saw.

Written Narration - I close up everything and Pamela narrates what she remembers. I make no corrections because it is a record of where she is at this moment in time. You can see some samples of her written narrations at her web page.

Reading Unleashes Your Brain's Thinking Box

A book is the only place in which you can examine a fragile thought without breaking it, or explore an explosive idea without fear it will go off in your face. It is one of the few havens remaining where a man's mind can get both provocation and privacy. ~Edward P. Morgan

Books can be dangerous. The best ones should be labeled "This could change your life."
~Helen Exley

How many books have you read in the last couple of months? I notice many bloggers include favorite books on side columns of blogs. What might happen if you read books and blogs more? Reading offers both the imaginative and the practical...

Imaginative In The Uncommon Reader, British writer and actor Alan Bennett, imagines what might happen if the queen read more. Hmmm... bet your mind never went there... does that rouse your curiosity?

As Bennett pictures it, the queen was not big on books, and one day discovers how much she likes them. She "gets so absorbed in reading that even while riding in a carriage," as Bennett characterizes this, "she is reading a book with one hand while waving to her subjects with the other."
Through her reading, Bennett's queen becomes more aware of the political world and the world in general.

"She starts having opinions and she starts really for the first time in her life putting herself in other people's shoes," Bennett says. "She'd never really imagined what it was like to be one of her subjects. And now she does. Books really humanize her, I think."
One gem in fiction is character... What is behind peoples' choices? Historical fiction opens a window to both imagination and fact so that history's fascinating. Does fiction capture your interest?

Practical On the other hand, non-fiction draws readers, in different ways... "How to..." books, science, history, business, technology... Non-fiction helps folks navigate all the practical aspects of today's world.

Women Read More Interestingly, research shows that women read more than men...

A couple of years ago, British author Ian McEwan conducted an admittedly unscientific experiment. He and his son waded into the lunch-time crowds at a London park and began handing out free books. Within a few minutes, they had given away 30 novels.

Nearly all of the takers were women, who were "eager and grateful" for the freebies while the men "frowned in suspicion, or distaste." The inevitable conclusion, wrote McEwan in The Guardian newspaper: "When women stop reading, the novel will be dead."

McEwan's prognosis is surely hyperbole, but only slightly. Surveys consistently find that women read more books than men, especially fiction.
Maybe biological differences between male and female brains affect these choices, or guys' magnetism to technology or the way girls and boys are introduced to reading at a young age... No matter what: Americans—men and women—are reading fewer books.

People Reading Less Last month The Associated Press and Ipsos, a market-research firm, released poll results revealing that Americans on the average "read only four books last year, and one in four adults read no books at all."

A National Endowment for the Arts report found that only 57 percent of Americans had read a book in 2002 a four percentage-point drop in a decade. Book sales have been flat in recent years and are expected to stay that way for the foreseeable future.

Young people, in general, read less than older people, and that does not bode well for books and the people who love them.
Reading Stirs Higher Cognitive Processes What advantage is there for folks to read? For openers, it affects ability to reason at higher cognitive levels. Here's what goes on in your brain as you read...

The large mass of white matter, consisting of bundles of fibres, links the white matter of your brain's two cerebral hemispheres. The corpus callosum carries a large number of fibres from one cerebral hemisphere to the other and is the major route of communication between the two hemispheres to control cognitive and motor function.

White Matter Matters in Reading Performance The white matter is basically the wiring in the middle," Dr. Christian Beaulieu, Professor, Department of Biomedical Engineering in Alberta, Canada, explains.

"The way I see it, the grey matter is the computers and the white matter is the wiring or the Ethernet cable that connects them all up and lets them communicate."

His research team concentrated on the "wiring" that connects different parts of the brain and observed that measurable differences in the wiring can be found in children... They found that the stronger the connectivity of the white matter "wiring," the better the child's reading ability. Since our brains have remarkable plasticity, as you begin to read more, you build more reading acumen.

Reading opens your mind to a world of new ideas you would not otherwise explore... whether by book, magazine, newspaper or blog... And, like Bennett's Queen, you'll have new opinions and you'll step into the shoes of other people and see the world differently...

To compete in tomorrow's world of business, be ready... explore a vast world of ideas...

What book will you read next?

Try, Valeria Maltoni's Picnic '07 on Experience, Storytelling, Social Objects, Complexity, Simplicity and Choice for a blog to stretch ideas... What blogs enlarge your mind?

Thursday, September 27, 2007

Stop Abuse: Bullying in the Workplace

Bullies in the workplace seem to be increasing in number. Perhaps you've suffered in silence at a bully's whims because you're afraid of losing your job. To provide a variety of perspectives on the workplace bully and ways to overcome bullying, I've picked the brains of several bloggers...

Jim Stroup presents recent stats on bullies in management:

Bullying can occur in the workplace as a result of the plain contrariness of someone’s personality, more serious shortcomings in one’s character, or competitive pressure that sometimes unleashes these elements that can be found buried somewhere in the makeup of all of us. Moreover, it can occur everywhere in the organization – indeed, recent surveys have shown that nearly half of all workers in the United States feel that they are the victims of bosses who are bullies – and almost two-thirds of workers feel that such bosses should be subject to lawsuits for that sort of behavior. This is obviously a serious problem in contemporary society generally, and in today’s pressure-cooker organizations, as well.

Illustration by Lisa Haney

Frank Roches of KnowHR lists common everyday actions [bullies] might use in a workplace.

Common Everyday Actions That [Bullies] Use
1. Personal insults
2. Invading one’s “personal territory”
3. Uninvited physical contact
4. Threats and intimidation, both verbal and nonverbal
5. “Sarcastic jokes” and “teasing” used as insult delivery systems
6. Withering e-mail flames
7. Status slaps intended to humiliate their victims
8. Public shaming or “status degradation” rituals
9. Rude interruptions
10. Two-faced attacks
11. Dirty looks
12. Treating people as if they are invisible
What matters most is what's on the other side of this picture. Ellen Weber asks...
Before workplace bullying pops you with a black eye to the soul, what can be done? Do you cultivate opportunities for the bully to grow more personal intelligences – or do you confront the conflict and encourage others to do the same?
When you turn a bully inside-out, you'll note that bullies're sorely lacking. They're people who do not feel good about themselves so they have to lift themselves up as smarter, most powerful, most strong... But the reality is they're bankrupt in Intrapersonal Intelligence, one of the Multiple Intelligences, identified through activity in the human brain.

What 's intrapersonal intelligence?

Interestingly, people with strong intrapersonal intelligence have spiritual well-being. Intrapersonal Intelligence entails the capacity to understand oneself, to appreciate one's feelings, fears and motivations. In Howard Gardner's view it involves having an effective working model of ourselves, and to be able to use such information to regulate our lives. In fact, Dr. Gardner, whose parents suffered in the Halocaust, has shifted his current research to focus more on Good Works since he sees Good Works as a proactive way to establish civil, caring communities.

Ethics and integrity play a big role in decision making for folks who have intrapersonal strength. They're very passionate about family, work, recreation, and have a deep sense of social justice. They've learned to deal with frustrations and anger in positive ways. They encourage others because they are strong within. You'll note their care and nuturing of others acted out daily. Do you hear them humming a happy tune within?

Steve Roesler, provides five reasons why "Who You Are" really matters ... In essence a person strong in Intrapersonal Intelligence...
It's not about. . . . . . a title. That's the role an organization says you're supposed to play. And that can change in a fleeting moment. This is about who you really are. Why is that so important?

1. Who You Are determines How you are.
2. How You Are determines the quality and depth of your relationships.
3. The quality and depth of your relationships determine your ability to mobilize your people--workers, family, or friends--in time of need.
4. The quality of your relationships determine the breadth and depth of help you'll receive in your time of need.
5. Who You Are determines your brand while you're alive and your legacy afterward.

Take time today to build a firm foundation that won't shake and crack with the first sign of adversity.
Several readers responding to Ellen Weber's post Any Bullies Where You Work? recommend the following tactics to combat it:

Simon Jackson recommends:
Running away - removing oneself from the situation - is often a valid and sensible response. But people in a position of authority should never tolerate or ignore bullying. I am greatly enjoying and recommend the book The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn't which is all about workplace bullying and how to handle it.
Ann Michael advises:
The best thing to do is to call them on it. I don't care what level they occupy in an organization - they need to be told they're a bully and how their behavior impacts those around them.

They will either care or they won't. For those that care you may have helped them see something they didn't realize and helped them to take ownership of it. For those that don't you make it clear that they will not be bullying you or others when you're around.

Most back down after that.
Wally Bock says:
One problem with bullies in business is that they're often in positions of power. And, because we pretty consistently evaluate goal performance only, they are often people who produce results. This is often fine for the short term and deadly for the long term.

Good evaluation systems should evaluate those in charge of a group on the twin jobs of accomplishing the mission and caring for the people. Individual contributors should be evaluated on their work quality and quantity, but also on their impact on the group.These are powerful suggestions to combat the abuse of workplace bullies.
What wisdom would you add to help a workplace bully change? What positive actions might you take to stop the abuse?

Pixie Dust

Pamela was sick with a cold Friday and was kind enough to pass hers onto me, which is my excuse for not blogging much this week!

She felt much better on Sunday, so we kept our promise of going shopping to a large city about an hour and a half from home (we live in the boonies). We picked up two pairs of shoes for her and browsed the DVD and toys section at Target. We ate a nice dinner and headed home. She was in rare form with her humor and verbal skills!

Pamela: "Where are we going?"
Us: "We're going home."
Pamela: "I want to go home."
Us: "Yes, Boss!"
Pamela: "I'm not a boss! I'm a worker!"
Us: "If you were a bee, would you be a queen bee or a worker bee?"
Pamela: "I'm a worker bee."


We made a quick stop at the Starbucks closest to home (an hour drive), and Pamela and I sat in the car waiting for Steve to pick up some liquid gold. I complained to Pamela about catching her cold, and suddenly I heard a noise like the sound effect for magic in cartoons. When I turned to locate the source, I saw Pamela flicking her finger at me. She announced, "I have a magic finger. Fix the cold." I smiled because she was so sweet and insistent that she had found the cure for the common cold.

I seized the opportunity to introduce a new activity I had planned to use for RDI. I asked her, "Pamela, how would you like to make a fairy wand tomorrow?" She flashed a brilliant smile and looked as if I had offered her a trip to the moon. She exhaled an excited "Yes!" I am sure the wheels in her head were spinning, trying to figure out how I was going to accomplish that trick.

On Monday, I printed out the pdf files for the fairy wand. Pamela's cutting skills need work, and The Toymaker will provide many opportunities to practice cutting in a fun, imaginative way. I bought a new pair of scissors that works for both lefties and righties. Pamela did fairly well. She handed the paper to me in spots she found too difficult (like the inner corners). She had very little patience for the tips and cut them to be blunt (not pointed). I did a little bit of touch up cutting.

I guided Pamela in the folding and had to correct many of her folds when she was not looking. We rolled up the handle around a pencil as a team. I held the roll while she taped. Then came the dreaded gluing. Like my friend Jennifer, I am a handicraft reject. Anything having to do with glue makes me cry. I do not mind the feel of it, but nothing ever turns out right. As usual, it was a huge mess. Undaunted, I grabbed some clear tape and patched up my botched-up job.

Pamela loved it, except for one minor detail. She told me, "Something is missing!" When I asked what, she replied, "Sprinkles." We searched for some glitter glue and she decorated her fairy wand. The final product turned out beautiful, even with the tape.

On Tuesday, when the wand was dry and I had a horrid sinus headache and nausea caused by congestion, I asked Pamela to help me feel better. She grabbed her wand and made her magic sound effect. Physically, nothing changed, but she made me smile.

Today, I spotlighted it further. When my dad visited, she greeted him. Then, I said, "I wonder what you could do if Opa feels bad." At first, she tried the magic finger. Then, I said, "But, what about your fairy wand?" She ran off to find it and cured her Opa properly. He thought she was precious.

In case, you no longer believe in fairies, keep in mind what C.S. Lewis wrote: "Some say you will be old enough to start reading fairy stories again."

Thanks to AmblesideOnline, I reached that age earlier than most adults! If you think you are ready, here are some books for the fairy-minded.

Blue Fairy Book
Red Fairy Book
Yellow Fairy Book
Green Fairy Book
English Fairy Tales
Pinocchio
Peter Pan
Mary Poppins
Five Children and It
Chronicles of Narnia
Little White Horse
At the Back of the North Wind
Princess and the Goblin
Princess and Curdie
The Light Princess
Secret Garden
Little Princess
Puck of Pook's Hill
Midsummer Night's Dream

Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Nature Stirs Insights and Connections

Our natural world can help us reframe information and ideas that bombard us at work or in learning circles. Folks gifted with strength in naturalistic intelligence easily sense patterns and make connection to elements in nature.

They're keenly aware of their surroundings and changes in their environment, even when the shifts are very subtle. People with nature smarts often possess highly developed sensory perception. They think in terms of similarities, differences and changes in surroundings. So how can naturalistic intelligence benefit you in a practical sense?

Using the natural world helps grab our attention in novel ways. Since our brain's stimulated by novelty, puzzles and challenges, the natural world can serve as an amazing stimulus...

Here's how... "When you pay attention," a Northwestern University study finds, "neurons produce stronger brain activity, as if the stimulus itself was stronger. That would mean that paying attention might make something appear more intense, and possibly distort its actual appearance." Attention to nature can facilitate your brain to work with unique results...

In many ways the natural world helps people sustain attention and process ideas and information more effectively, making the world come into sharper focus. So how might you make the most of your own naturalistic intelligence?

Walk outside with a problem you want to solve. Just observe everything around you as you walk. You literally invite nature to be your partner in problem solving. Before you know it, good ideas come to mind. While you take in the natural world your brain works on the problem you presented. Changing your environment makes all the difference in seeing new solutions.

Choose a metaphor from nature to represent a larger concept. Natural metaphors speak in ways that words often cannot. Suppose you are thinking of the environment in a building... What would you choose? A hornet, a squirrel, an ant colony, a mature oak tree... Then you help others to make links more powerfully than with words. You might find this a logical way to frame larger ideas. In essence, "It's almost like a conductor stepping in," Marcia Grabowecky imagines, "to control a large set of unruly musicians in an orchestra so that they all play together. Cells synchronize precisely to the conductor's cues."

Start a natural collection Once you perceive the infinite variety in natural collections, such as rocks, insects, you'll transfer keen skills for subtle similarities and differences to other contexts. Do you see some parallels between your collection and your next advertizing campaign? Do you see any other possibilities here?

Why not sleep on it... let your brain work out connections and links to nature as you spend more time in the natural world.

Try a nature break to focus more on the natural world today... and, let us know how it moves your thoughts and ideas!

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Never Give Up . . .

. . . Never Surrender!

If you filled in the blank, you have watched Galaxy Quest one too many times. When this movie was still somewhat recognizable, the kids, Steve, and I attended an astronomy talk at Florissant Fossil National Monument, which was about a mile from our home. The astronomer began talking about galaxies and Pamela got everyone laughing by saying loudly, "Never give up! Never surrender!"

That is how I feel about Pamela's acquisition of language. When she was two, she had no language, no signs, and no attempts at communication. We started teaching her sign language and she mastered a few signs, but did not get the idea of using a signed word to get something for it. Unlike Helen Keller's moment at the water pump, Pamela could only manage to learn one verbal word a month once she figured out that everything had a name. She was four she had a vocabulary of nouns and echolalic phrases. Through some Mommy ABA ala The ME Book, we added some adjectives, shapes, and colors. When she taught herself to sight-read by connecting video tapes to video boxes, she learned that her echolalic phrases were made up of individual words. By the time she turned seven, we were excited about her growing lexicon of language, and then she stalled.

We tried a variety of ways to teach Pamela how to put words together in order to make sense. Nothing worked. Pamela's kindergarten teacher gave me a discarded copy of the Vocabulary, Articulation, Syntax Training (VAST) Program. The program had cards color-coded by parts of speech (146 composite cards, 157 component cards, and a sentence tray). I tried teaching her to put together words with this system for about two years before I transitioned to something new. I figured out later that the VAST program lacked the written component and the very slow introduction of new syntax Pamela needed. Then, I tried Teach Me Language because it was ABA, and ABA was the scientific way to teach anything. I spent another two years on that and realized this was not the ticket for Pamela, either. I figured out later that it also did not have the element of writing and slow pace of syntax.

At that point, I transitioned to a Charlotte Mason approach to language: reading aloud, copywork, oral narration, studied dictation, and recitation. I had all the elements I needed except the slow teaching of syntax. Someone had to connect those dots for me, and that was Mildred McGinnis in her program, the association method. Pamela is near the end of the second unit of language and can finally write simple narrations. She can finally answer questions and use sentences like the ones I tried to teach with the VAST program and Teach Me Language.

Yesterday, I published an updated version of Pamela's web page. In years past, I took her ideas and filled in the correct syntax. With this update, I realized that I could make a list of questions and have her answer them for her web page. For the first time ever, Pamela wrote all the material describing herself with her own syntax. The page pictured above may not seem like much to you, but it has taken over a decade of never giving up and never surrendering to produce it!

Friday, September 21, 2007

Sleepy at Work?

Find yourself sleepy at work, especially after lunch? Dozed at your computer more than once? Recent surveys and polls indicate you're not alone...

Too Comfortable "A study on workplace taboos," NPR reports, "finds employees may be getting a little too comfortable. About 45 percent of workers admitted to falling asleep on the job." Why is this happening?

Bored According to a BBC news story, many workers are bored.

Rich Foods for Lunch Eating too many carbs and desserts at lunch causes a letdown and leads to afternoon slump.

No Exercise Most jobs require little physical energy.

Little to no water People are not aware that fluids, especially water, are essential to well being.

Employers Foot the Bill When folks can't sleep at night...
Employers are also paying a price for our national sleep troubles in the form of lost productivity, industrial accidents and computer equipment malfunctions caused by workers falling asleep and drooling into their keyboards. To combat this sort of on-the-job drowsiness, today many forward-thinking companies are giving office workers opportunities to catch up on sleep with initiatives featuring names like "employee nap time," "workday rest breaks" or, as the practice is already known at many organizations, "staff meetings."
Brain Drained The Australian Sleep Research Project shows that lack of sleep actually curtails mental capabilities ...
Seventeen hours of sustained wakefulness leads to a decrease in performance equivalent to a blood alcohol-level of 0.05%.

Feeling tired can feel normal after a short time. Those deliberately deprived of sleep for research initially noticed greatly the effects on their alertness, mood and physical performance, but the awareness dropped off after the first few days.

So, what to do?

Find Challenge Your brain leaps to challenges and enrichment. University of Wisconsin-Madison researchers find that the quality of your day links directly to the intensity of your sleep at night. Chiara Cirelli, lead researcher explains...
Wakefulness associated with exposure to an enriched environment and with high levels of exploratory activity, a condition well known to trigger plastic changes in the brain, leads to increased BNDF expression and increased sleep pressure as compared to wakefulness with low exploratory activity. More stringently, the study finds that the amount of exploratory behavior during wakefulness can predict the extent to which brain-derived neurotrophic factor [BDNF] is induced in the cerebral cortex, as well as the extent of the physiological waking activity to sleep [SWA] response during subsequent sleep.
Strategies for Peak Performance:

Eight hours of sleep nightly... With enough sleep your brain and body and brain rewire and re energize. With deep REM sleep, you won't snore at your desk.

Nutritious lunches... To increase brainpower in the afternoon, here's a few suggestions for lunch... to bolster your afternoon acuity:
Opt for a combination of carbs and proteins at lunch: Dr. Judith Wurtman, MIT nutrition researcher says that protein contains precursors of serotonin, the neurotransmitter which promotes a calm, relaxed feeling and helps to fight emotional fatigue. Protein rich foods also contain tyrosine, a precursor to neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine that elevate alertness, attention, and motivation. Wurtman suggests adding just a few carbs boosts the brain's intake of tryptophan.

Select protein rich foods from lunch menus: Seafood, poultry and lean meat supply the richest sources, as well as dairy products, legumes, nuts and seeds. Veggies and grains have protein too, though in lesser amounts, without the fat.

Drink plenty of water at lunch since it helps you eat less. And, take a few extra trips to the water cooler at your office – you’ll not only relieve stiffness from too much sitting, but movement helps raise the oxygen level in your brain.
Use stairs...Skip the elevator! Exercise pumps more oxygen to your brain, which uses 21% of your body's oxygen supply. If you feel drowsy, get up and move... deliver that package down the hall. Take time at lunch for 20 minutes of aerobics

Be the person you most want to be today at work... Ask yourself if you are working in the most challenging and enriched environment that works to advance your career... Take first steps to make that a reality.

What steps keep you from snoozing on the job?

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Puzzled No More

Examples of autistic wunderkinds who put together complicated jigsaw puzzles practically blindfolded without their backs turned abound. Pamela is not one of them. She still does not completely get standard notions about puzzlemaking like the edges lining up, spotting potential locations on the box, and studying the shapes. We have been working on simple 100-piece puzzles since March in an RDI-like way. One thing I do is to build joint attention and then tell her indirect comments like "This is an edge. All the edges line up." "I wonder where this might be on the box." "Oh, I think I see a match with this piece."

Today, we ran out of time puzzle-building. Pamela stayed behind to finish it while I cooked lunch. Not only did she finish the puzzle, she skipped into the kitchen and announced proudly, "I did it! I finished the puzzle." You can bet I spotlighted that moment with an enthusiastic response.

She had a similar moment yesterday when she was trying to break off the remnants of a branch. She found garden clippers useless, so I suggested we visit my Dad to borrow a saw after dinner. She had other ideas. Pamela grabbed a huge, heavy stone and dropped it on the branch repeatedly until it snapped. She ran it to the house, skipping and telling me, "I broke the branch!" And, of course, I celebrated--Steve did not know the backstory and could not fathom why we were Snoopy Dancing over a stick.

Pamela is becoming much more interested in SHARING exciting moments in her day with me! Before RDI, she only shared the tragedies, not the triumphs.

Wednesday, September 19, 2007

More Sweet Moments

I am finding that a great way to practice episodic memory is right after narrating a book. Pamela and I tell each other when a story reminds us of something. Today, we read a story about a skunk, so I told it how it reminded me of our dog Pepper who used to come home stinking after a meeting with a skunk when we lived in Pennsylvania. That alone brought a smile to her face, but she lit up when I quoted a poem she is memorizing for recitation (At the Zoo by William Thackeray), "Mercy! How unpleasantly he smelled!"

Then, I hinted at another animal story that happened in Colorado. Intrigued, she guessed, "A bear?" (There was a bear story, but that was not the one I had in mind). She ventured a few more guesses before I told her about the time our other dog Loa came home with a quill beard after meeting a porcupine. Then, Pamela told me about the eagles with sharp claws in Alaska and the rabbits in Minnesota. We tried to think about an animal encounter in South Carolina, and she remembered the hummingbird that zoomed up to Pamela while she was eating an orange popsicle on the porch. She laughed and giggled at that very recent memory.

Another exciting development is that Pamela is finally able to put together a puzzle in one sitting with much less help. She is better able to match parts, which was a challenge for her six months ago. Okay, we have been doing the same three puzzles since March . . .

Finally, she is getting better at referencing her brother. David hides the locked box item and Pamela has to reference him to find it. On Monday, I had him hide two objects. He was able to communicate to her wordlessly to find another object (he snapped his fingers to catch her attention and turned his gaze to the spot where the other toy hid). Yesterday was a bust because he did not realize I had given him two objects. Today was great! He hid six small objects, and Pamela responded well to him, finding all six fairly quickly.

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Two-footed Questions Spark Surprise

Ever noticed some questions have ready made answers? If I ask, "Who was the first man on the moon?" there's an expected answer. Questions with expected answers bore people, unless you're in the hot seat on The Millionaire. Here's why...

Questions that deal with facts and information, have little affect on the person asking or the person questioned. People's minds fly a million miles away, because their interest is simply not captured. Did you experience that at school?

On the other hand, some questions are all about people, their ideas, feelings, opinions... If I asked, "How are you feeling today?" the question is very subjective and can change between morning and evening or from day to day. And, even worse, you run the risk of hearing an organ recital. Since it's one person's experience, it does not necessarily involve me or anyone else but that person. When we don't connect, we tend to lose interest, too. So what kind of questions really spark peoples' juices?

A two-footed question bridges facts and folks' interests, and sparks surprise as folks respond thoughtfully...

Here're some starters that begin with you directly...
How might I adjust my day to do ... differently?

In what ways could I assist my manager with ...?

What strategies might work for me to engage my children in ... following school?
Note how your interests link directly to a topic... and if you ask the question just before you go to sleep your brain works on it while you get your zzzz's... Or, ask it in the morning and mull it over during the day. You'll be amazed that a great answer comes when you least expect it...

Consider two-footed questions that draw out others' thoughts and experiences...

Who has influenced you most at work, and in what key way did he or she help boost your leadership?

What contribution could you make to... and how might it impress the boss?

How do you get your teens interested in ...?

Or, maybe you'd like to try two-footed question strategies to draw from others' smarts.

When you use this strategy to inquire of another person, you show respect for their knowledge and experience. Your respect inspires, and folks jump to the challenge of providing you a very thoughtful answer.

When you ask two-footed questions of folks on your work team, with clients or with family, you'll be amazed at unexpected answers and deeper conversations that develop.

Dr.Ellen Weber, CEO of the MITA International Brain Based Center developed two feet for questioning as a way to spark deeper ideas, thoughtful discussion and interactions, based on many years of research. For additional insights, check Ellen's posts:

Two Footed Questions for a Flat World

Questions without Watertight Answers Increase Wonder

A Cat Covers Its Material, but Humans Question


Recapture the Power of a Question


And for your upcoming Thanksgiving table, Ellen advises...

Start your dinner by inviting each person to give thanks for one thing in the last week. Such a two-footed questions keeps the tone fresh. People tend to piggy back off one other’s insights from thanks, so cortisol diminishes, that horrid hormone for stress and negativity.
Ready for surprises and depth of thought as you communicate? Try asking a two-footed question at one of your next meals. Figure out a great question in advance... Come back and share results...

Saturday, September 15, 2007

Casual Dress Can Limit Your Paycheck

Dress codes have been relaxed to the point that employees don't know what to wear anymore. Do people dress casually where you work? You'd be interested to know that, 40 percent of respondents say they wear jeans or whatever is most comfortable to the office. But most still think how they dress affects their performance reviews according to an NPR news item this week. Dressing for work can be a bigger problem than "what will I wear?"

In fact, by chilling out as they dress, workers may risk career success for the sake of comfort, according to two recent surveys. But here's a fact more puzzling... "At the same time," according to surveys by Yahoo Hot Jobs and Banana Republic, "61 percent of workers admit they either don't know or don't care about their company dress code."

Attractiveness Consider for a minute that the neurology of beauty impacts decision makers in your workplace. Remember the school playground where kids were selected on the basis of looks and popularity. Let's face it, attractiveness affects others' perceptions. So how does casual dress fit in?

Keep clothes handy to "dress up" quickly Even when you're in a casual environment, Tom Musbach, managing editor for Yahoo Hot Jobs suggests it's a good idea for workers to keep a nice pair of shoes and blazer in their cubicles, to be prepared for a high-level meeting.

Trends changed over the last few years for both guys and gals. Consider this guys... Barber shops gave way to styling salons; more men seek cosmetic surgery and dye their hair; and at newsstands men's health and fitness publications now equal shelf space with women's magazines. Appearance is critical for many men at the top.

Women: avoid dressing like men Gals, be sure not to dress like the guys, if you want that promotion...
When male executives are asked what holds top women back in the workplace, appearing too masculine is always in the top five, says Benton. Most men think women should be business-like, but should not try to join the boys' club.
Tone Down - Stay Stylish Bobbi Engelke, a litigation paralegal at the Boca Raton law office of Adorno & Yoss, considers herself a stylish dresser, but tones down her look for work. "I don't want to give someone the wrong impression," says Engelke, who usually dons a pantsuit or other professional attire for the office. But even on "casual day," she says, "you can dress casually and still be stylish and professional."

Along with this, South Florida business consultant Luis Mago advises, "to always be ready for an unexpected meeting with the CEO."
"Let's assume you're in a business meeting with a client and all of a sudden the president of the company walks in and you're wearing shorts. You're not going to get that business," Mago says.

Matt Kennedy, 24, a public relations account executive in Orlando, no longer wears his hair to work in a fashion that looks like a modified mohawk. Instead, he wears glasses and sweeps his hair to the side in a style he describes as a bit like Clark Kent.

"Before, I was struggling to get a job. Then I got three job offers in one week," Kennedy says. "On the weekends, I wear my trendy clothes and jeans that are bleached out."

It's the reason Brian Chernicky, 30, owner of the newly founded San Diego-based Real Online Marketing, wears a pair of fake glasses when wooing clients. He thinks it makes him look smarter. "Marketing is perception," he says.
Appearance and your paycheck "Your appearance, good or bad, can affect size of your paycheck," according to Stephanie Armour. Continuing research reveals that how you look is influential. Here's an overview of research results...


Hmmm.... what will you wear today?

Friday, September 14, 2007

A Great Day for Autism!

Pamela had a great day when it comes to personal relationships.

First, we drove to the office that processes our homeschooling paperwork, and it just so happens that the lady who runs it homeschools her autistic 18yo son, too. So, when Pamela asked to play with the "time machine" (hourglass), spun the globe, and rocked in the rocking chair, she smiled and remarked, "She reminds me of my son!" Pamela was comfortable enough to comment how the “time machine” reminded her of The Wizard of Oz. She pointed to South America and, when asked, said it reminded her of Kon-Tiki.

Then, we went to Wal-Mart. Earlier in the week, Pamela asked me what RDI was because she saw it on her schedule. I told her it was the game therapy we do. While scanning at the self-check out, Pamela looked at me, smiled, and announced, "I'm doing RDI!"

Then, I took my two teens to get haircuts. The hair stylist completely "got" Pamela, and, by the end of the hair cutting session, this kindred spirit was playing along with Pamela's word games as if they were bosom buddies. Most people are puzzled or back off, but this stylist was wonderful. Pamela was thrilled that a stranger knew how to play.

On the way home, Pamela was very communicative and told me something new. She has been reviewing her life often lately because she has been writing her autobiography in her journal. She told me today that the reason why she broke her arm in the bathroom in 1997 was that she was pretending to skate. Apparently, the floor was wet, so she was trying to take advantage of the slick surface.

Steve beat us to the house. Pamela walked into the house and yelled happily, "Daddy!" She walked up to him and gave him the biggest bear hug ever. He could not get over her delighted reaction to seeing him at home!

Brain Myths Shape Your Choices

Myths you hold about your brain shape major decisions and ability to perform well. For example, I've worked with many people who have the notion that if they work hard, they'll really get ahead in life. If folks began to work smarter and not harder, they'd accomplish much more and enjoy it, too.

Often we work against our brain rather than with it... Working hard indicates folks work long hours, trying to fit a lot in , so to compensate they cut down on sleep. When humans cut down on sleep their mental progress slows. Related to this, folks who work hard often try to do too much in a course of a day so they soon fall under stress, which in turn can lead to medical problems.

Working smarter, may include...

  • Questioning your priorities
  • Targeting small daily steps toward larger projects
  • Organizing spaces for relaxation to be good to you
  • Using more of your gifts and talents to generate variation in daily activities
  • Reflecting on "Where to from here?"

You might be unaware of the myths you hold about yourself. When I said to Ellen Weber, But, I'm not smart enough... a myth I'd held for years surfaced. At the invitation of Rosa Say to participate in Joyful Jubilant Learning Community's September Signature Event, I share my personal story of how I burst this lifelong myth.

Dr. Ellen Weber shares realities about brain myths you may hold...

Harsh lessons make you gullible

Choice sacks control

Working harder and longer pays off

Seeing others smarter than you

Myths about Talents that Will Hold Some Back

Energy Level Myths and Your Success

Myth About Anxiety as a Fixed State

Myth about Memory and Your New Year Predictions

Is Your New Year Success Tied to Myths about Family?

Getting beyond myths about the brain

Mahalo to you, Rosa and your Ho‘okipa, Hospitality of Complete Giving. May you prosper!