Alright...after my last paper, now I got plenty of time 4 my blog....(aiseh mcm ada readers pula..huhuhu). Btw in dis post i want to share about da common situation happend in our culture, society or social group, whatever you named it, you get it... Officially dis will be my longest post so far.
Have you ever come in the situations.....
1. Guys can go out nite time...no problem at all. But if people saw girls somewhere during nite time people start saying," What's wrong with dis people?" Sabahan will say;" Napala ni perempuan bejalan lg, ni mesti tia kana ajar mama bapa ni"
2.When it come to cigarette...well of coz da guys can smoke...again no problem....Ladies smoke, oh God people throw a nasty looked at them...
3. When it come to dressing... they said girls in sexy dress caused the rape case increases.... ermm...I'll discuss dis as we go
4. Engagement... if da girl engaged, that it another rules imposed on her.... The term "Darah Manis", the old folks will say...any where you go you need to bring someone or your family members to be with....whatever
Shall we start? Ok, First of all, why da girls cannot go out nite time? For many years before such question popped-up the society already get used to keep da daughters inside da house no matter day or nite time. Male or da guys will be let freely outside the house even its a nite time. The old folks put nite as the time where all 'bad' activities will happend. And for ladies only a certain types of "ladies" will be out there during nite time...in Bahasa said ' Kupu2 mlm'. That what da old thoughts...but now...as ladies are more 'educated' and hold important post in organizations, lots of meeting will be carried out until nite time... Shall I said private Executives often experienced it... Therefore there is no such thing in the present time that da ladies cannot go out... da point is da purpose or da intention to go out need to be verify first... in my point of view there is nothing wrong to go out nite time.
Then, cigarette. I personally against it as it bad and will harm da health conditions. Since da old lady @ kampung also smoke...so why cannot young ladies start early...free will what?! Her body her choice. I really hate to look at a situation when da girls smoke and people around started give a wired looked. Why? PorkE? Q?... These kind of people need not to busy about others action. Who are U to judge her? Let her be what she imagine and wish.
Thirdly...to concluded da way da ladies dress as one of da factors dat leads to an increased in the rape cases today...I strongly dis agree. For me the guys need to have sort of temptation control here. In my point of view, if da guys can have some control over themselves, even if they saw a girl with hot dress...they would not have any intention to go beyond da boundaries. To look at fine I guess...its natural when there is a girl walking on da street of coz guys eyes will look at them. Plus we cannot asked the non-muslim ladies to wear what Islam imposed over the muslim ladies...No matter how strong the temptations are rape case can be reduce if da guys can control themselves.
Lastly...to be engaged not mean that da girls life will meet da end of da road...To keep da engagement relations is good...but is it applicable to restrict da lady activities.?she want to go out with frens which included da guys... If a lady who is engaged and some1 saw her with some other man..you know what? People will say dat da lady not rili committed with da engagement. AiyoOo...wake-up people...even married couple are not excluded to get divorced. Term "darah manis" not applicable in today's conditions. Who's of ur family members will have time to accompany you wherever you want to go? To go out there alone with the title some1 fiance will be OK if that person know her/his limits. They should know that their had been Reserved in advance. Then no matter how far you might go you should know who are you in others eyes.
Seriously speak, this is what I can express from the situations happened around me, dis is truly my point of view towards it. No intention to condemn or talk bad about my own society. All we need here is understanding and make our people to be aware and spent time to listen, observed + learning.
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